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This Woman Went From Being a Stay-at-Home Mom to a NASA Scientist

09 Apr

My first article at www.mvslim.com:

http://mvslim.com/this-woman-went-from-being-a-stay-at-home-mom-to-a-nasa-scientist/

from_a_stay_at_home_mother_to_nasa_scientist

 

Free your mind and watch the new you!

11 Nov

Tae
There are many stories behind this picture.

Last August, I received “Best Skills Award” at my Taekwondo School. I recovered from two fractures in my right foot before that picture, by a couple of months.

Before the test by few days, I fell because of my foot while training.

At that time, I felt that it was over and I told myself, “Respect our age, and quit it, that is enough.”

My Master came to me and told me, “Your strength is in your mind and in what you say to yourself. If your mind can visualize yourself doing the move, your body will do it. Your body has no choice, it must follow your mind’s orders. You, who manipulate your mind and direct it by what you say to yourself. Tell yourself that you can do it and you will do it. “

I said these advices to the kids in my speech after receiving the award in the small picture in the corner. I said, “Believe that you can. Make your mind visualize it. Your body will follow.
Three steps which easy to say, but need much practice to achieve.”

I applied these steps in the sparring part of the belt test. They gave me the award because of my unexpected kicks in the sparring part. No one knew that I had to do those unexpected kicks because of my foot pain. My foot started to turn red, hot and swollen. All my focus was to avoid balancing on the fractured parts.
Indeed the success is only from Allah.

Taekwondo to me is physical therapy. I had a problem in my knee that made me not able to walk for some times or use a stick. The doctor gave me medications. After I finished my physical therapy, he said that if I ever stopped playing sports, I would repeat that course again. He added that if I want to be able to walk then I have to walk. I remembered at that time, Prophet’s Mohamed telling us that knowledge can be achieved by learning and being tolerant can be achieved by being tolerant.

Frankly, Taekwondo is psychological therapy, too.
I had a bad depression. It was worse than any physical illness.
In Taekwondo, I kick, hit, break wood boards, scream and do the energy exercises.

First day in Taekwondo, I was so embarrassed and was telling myself that I am too old to start anything. But I found that I was the youngest in the class.

Many of my daughter’s friends’ families stayed to cheer for me on my test. Everybody was encouraging me to stay persistent. Nobody was aware of the fight I had with my culture and my thoughts.

Conclusion: You can do whatever you want under whatever circumstances.
Allah created your mind free with extraordinary powers.
You who limit your mind and imprison it. Your body consequently will follow because the body has to follow the mind’s orders and has no other choice.
Free your mind and watch the new you!

Forget the people and do what you want.
Life is short and it is only a test.
The real life is the hereafter.
So purify the intentions.

Peace be upon you

 

Math programs and sites for Kids

30 Oct

#homeschooling #parenting #kids #math_for_kids #تعليم_منزلي #رياضيات_للأطفال (English translation below)
فيه برامج كتيرة لتعليم الرياضيات للأطفال
إليكم نتائج بحثي و تجاربي … يا ريت تفيدوني
1. يوسيماس
لم أجد له طريق تعليم بالمنزل مع الأسف
لازم سنتر و تدريب يومي
لكن النتائج اللي موجودة أونلاين تفوق الخيال
للأسف أقرب سنتر له في نيويورك سيتي و مفيش جادة جنبي 🙁

2. كيومون:
و ده عبارة عن كتب كلها مسائل فقط
مريح جدا للأباء طبعا
تقعد و هم يحلوا و يصلحوا لنفسهم قشطة خالص 🙂
في الأول بتكون طريقة لطيفة لكن بعد شوية بتكون مملة السنين
كنت بعملها لكن حاليا بنتي وقفته غالبا عشان تغلبني معاها 🙂

3.الرياضيات الذهنية
و ده له استراتيجيات حل
لسه مجربتوش لكن له مصادر كثيرة جدا أونلاين
اللي لقيته حتي الان:
https://www.teachingchannel.org/videos/third-grade-mental-math

https://thegrandknowledge.files.wordpress.com/2014/03/secrets-of-mental-math-guidebook.pdf
http://www.gov.pe.ca/photos/original/eecd_gr3math.pdf

4. خان أكاديمي
مجاني و مريح برضه و مطابق لمنهج المدرسة بالضبط
فيديوهات بتشرح و بعدين هم تدريبات يحلوا و أنت يجيلك الريبورت زي الباشا
لكن كالعادة برضه بنتي وقفته و مش عاجبها!!!!!!!

5. رياضيات ساكسون
ده المنهج اللي بتدرسة المدارس الشارتر هنا في أمريكا
عبارة عن مسائل مختلفة و منتوعة و كثيرة جدا جدا جدا
لازم تقعد تعملها معاهم بنفسك
مش هيعرفوا يحلوها لوحدهم خاصة اني ملقتش كتب حلول
الكتب موجودة أونلاين نزل اللي يناسب عمر أولادك
https://www.google.com/search?q=saxon+math+homeschool&oq=saxon+math+&aqs=chrome.1.69i57j0l5.8701j0j7&sourceid=chrome&es_sm=93&ie=UTF-8#q=saxon+math+pdf

6.أي اكس ال
موقع مجاني و لطيف و كله ألوان فيشرح القلب
مش فاكرة وقفناه ليه بصراحة 🙁
https://www.ixl.com/

7.طريقة ميلر
المركز ده جنب بيتي و الطلبة الباكستانين اللي عندي في المسجد بيروحوه و بيقولولي انهم بياخدوا مناهج ثانوي و هم لسه في ابتدائي
حاولنا نسجل فيه بنتي لكن محصلش مش فاكرة ايه اللي حصل برضه ؟!
لكنه ضاف بعض الفيديوهات أونلاين تقدروا تشوفوها، أنا ليه مشوفتهاش، لسه لاقياه و أنا بكتب دلوقتي
http://www.mathphysicsexplore.org/MPEactivities/Math.aspx

8. موقع تن ماركس
منال ربنا يكرمها لسه قايلالي عليه لكنه بفلوس
www.tenmarks.com

اللي يقدر يفيدني في حدوتة uc mas أكون ممتنة جدا جدا جدا
There are many progams to teach kids math
Here you are my experiences and what I found, I wish you, too tell me about your experiences

1. uc mas
I did nt find a homeschooling way for it
It is only taught in centers, I don’t have one nearby
but the result on youtube are amazing

2.Kumon
It is just worksheet books
Parent don’t have to do anythig except followup
Kids sit, solve, correct for themselves
My daughter found it boring after a while 🙁

3. Mental math
it’s solving strategies
It has many free resources online
https://www.teachingchannel.org/videos/third-grade-mental-math

https://thegrandknowledge.files.wordpress.com/2014/03/secrets-of-mental-math-guidebook.pdf
http://www.gov.pe.ca/photos/original/eecd_gr3math.pdf

4.Khan Academy
It is free & matching exactly teh public schools currcilum
again free and parents won’t put any effort
videos explaining followed by excercies and the site send you report of your kids progress
but again my daughter stopped using it

5.Saxon Math
It is used in the chartered schools here in USA
worksheets but the problems are so different and so various
you must do it with your kids
I did nt find sol. workbook for it
but looks intersting and challenging
you can sownload it online
https://www.google.com/search?q=saxon+math+homeschool&oq=saxon+math+&aqs=chrome.1.69i57j0l5.8701j0j7&sourceid=chrome&es_sm=93&ie=UTF-8#q=saxon+math+pdf

6. IXL
nice, & colorful
can’t remember now why we stopped using it
I think I should revisit it
https://www.ixl.com/

7. Miller method
kids I know told me that they learn high school math while they are still in elementery
he added some videos, take a look
http://www.mathphysicsexplore.org/MPEactivities/Math.aspx

8. tenmarks
not free
did nt try it
a friend just told me about it from few min
www.tenmarks.com

who can tell me how to teach uc mas methoad at home, I’d be so grateful indeed

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Challenges facing American Muslim youth

27 Oct
Council on American-Islamic Relations in California reports about School bullying and accommodation in its 2014 annual report.

Council on American-Islamic Relations in California reports about School bullying and accommodation in its 2014 annual report.

 

The second generation of American Muslim youth are facing additional challenges than their American peers. They feel unsecure and their voices are unheard from their family and communities. Many of them at young age stop practicing Islam and assimilate in the society.

“When we talked about the Islamic civilizations and my 9th grade social studies class I thought okay

I’m gonna learn something about my faith and instead and it was actually the first time that I learned how to pray with so that I could demonstrate it for my class,” said Edina Lekovic in her speech to the Institute for Social Policy and Understanding addressing identity crisis. She is the director of policy and programming in Muslim Public Affairs Council.

 

Sameera Ahmed and Maha Ezzeddine published a paper researching the topic. The paper title is, “Challenges and opportunities facing American Muslim Youth,” and published in Journal of Muslim Mental Health. They stated that the preliminary studies have reported that alcohol use among Muslim youth ranged from 47% to 71%. Drinking alcohol is prohibited in Islam.

Family and mosque are the main sources of the religious knowledge and spirituality. Lack of communication between them and the young people is a major problem. The American Muslim youth reported that their immigrant parents usually have culture clashes with the new society. Even the children of Muslim converts, who are Americans, reported that their parents cannot understand them because they were not raised as Muslims.

“Climate of fear exists, when people don’t know us,” Lekovic said. Islam is an active religion and Muslims believe that they are encountered for the belief strength and the good actions. Many Islamic scholars and educators focus only on enriching the belief and spirituality aspects and ignore the aspect of civic and political actions.

Peer pressure during adolescence pushes some Muslim to violate their beliefs. Some participate in school dances, drugs, and dating to feel belonging. Some protect themselves by isolation from the society in an unhealthy way. Many reported discrimination cases from school teachers and bullying from their peers.

“Young people do not know much about their faith, in to be grappling with your identity and then to be confronted with questions about terrorism or bin Laden or Sony Shia or what’s happening in Iraq or Syria or you name it, and to be made into a mouthpiece first time, whether you like it or not, is an overwhelming,” Lekovic concluded.

 

 

Financial educational games for kids ألعاب لتعليم الأطفال مبادئ المال و الاستثمار

13 Oct

‪#‎Parenting‬ ‪#‎finance‬ ‪#‎kids‬

richkid
بما اني أسوأ واحدة في الدنيا في التعامل مع الفلوس و الماليات و العك ده. أنا حرفيا بكره الفلوس. قررت اني مخليش بنتي تطلع زيي.
الرابط ده عبارة عن لعب تعليمية للأطفال بالسن لفهم مبادئ المال و الاستثمار و الأرباح. مبدأ هام جدا لا ييعرفه الكثير منا و هو: ادفع لنفسك أولا.
As I am the worst person on earth in financial dealings, money & such stuff. I hate money literally. I decided to not bring up my daughter to be like me. This link is educational games by age for financial head start to understand the concepts of money, investment and profit. A v. important rule that not many of us know is: Pay yourself first.

http://www.richkidsmartkid.com/index.html

 

Nobel Prize جائزة نوبل

07 Oct

‪#‎NobelPrize‬ ‪#‎Parenting‬ (English translation below)
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والدي العزيز رحمة الله عليه كان دائما يجعلنا نشاهد الحفل ان أمكن و نقرأ عن هؤلاء العلماء و أسباب نيلهم الجائزة. في الوقت الذي كانت حواديت قبل النوم لكل صديقاتي -لو كان فيه- عن الأميرات و الأمراء الذين يتزوجوا ليعشوا في تبات و نبات و يخلفوا صبيان و بنات، كان والدي رحمة الله عليه يحكي لي عن سميرة موسي و كيف تم اغتيالها و أنه يتمني لو أكملت مسيرتها حين أكبر، عن ماري كوري و عبقريتها و غيرهن.
من المهم للأباء أن يكون عندهم القدوة و الاستراتيجية في تربية الأولاد، ربما الأولاد لن يحققوا أحلام الأباء. لكن لابد أن يتمني الأباء أن يصبح أولادهم أشخاص عظماء و يغرسوا ذلك بداخلهم ويريهم أمثلة حية يسيروا علي خطاها.
My dear Dad-May Allah bless his soul- always made us watch the Nobel Prize ceremony if possible. He used to get us all information, he can find about them and about their achievements. While my friends’ bed time stories were about princess & princes, getting married & live happily ever after, my dad was telling me about Samira Mousa & her assassination. He wished if I could complete her dream. He was telling me about Marie Curie, her genius & many other genius ladies.
It is important to have a strategic plan for our kids and to dream of their glorious future. May be they won’t fulfill our dreams but it is our duty to instill in them the desire to be glorious. It is our duty to show them such real examples to follow their foot steps.

 

Do not kill curiosity but stay safe!

22 Sep

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My younger brother was curios about fire. While exploring fire by himself,
the car caught fire while he was locked inside!

Do not kill curiosity but stay safe!
Kids’ curiosity about fire

It is never easy for a parent to allow his kids to indulge their dangerous curiosities before his eyes. Every parent feels that his responsibility is to overhaul his kids’ behavior and to protect them from any harm. My Dad had the same goals but he applied them in an unusual way. When he found us so curious about exploring something lethal, like fire, he urged us to do it in front of him and under his supervision. His goal was to be ready to protect us and save our lives without killing our drive to explore, nor killing ourselves.

Full Article

 

Art is therapy… Teen Visions ‘15

10 Feb

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Art is therapy… Teen Visions ‘15

A photograph of a girl committing suicide by cutting her wrist and blood leaking, skeletons, empty roads and zombies, were some of the art pieces on the exhibit at Teen Visions ’15 in Vassar College in Poughkeepsie.

Each piece was a psychological story bleeding in paintings, drawings, and photographs.

The exhibition had more than 60 pieces created by local high school students, who participated in the Art Institute Summer Art Intensive Program.

Most of the pieces were scary and murky; having bones, old bald trees, and vague stairs. Nevertheless, some pieces were different like “Dream & Reality” piece, it had raised hands with big wall clock in the background and butterflies in hot colors.

“Art is therapy!” Todd Poteet, Director of the Art Institute said. He added that art was an outlet for the kids to get out what they were raving about inside. Art helped these kids healing by talking about the suffering and expressing themselves their own way in their art.

As for the suicide piece, he said, “A happy kid made it. Many of her friends committed suicide, which hurt her so much and she wanted to leave something talking about it.”

“Art for Healing Program” is one of the specialized programs that the Art Institute afford. It is a collaboration program with hospitals. It helped kids and patients who suffered from chronological diseases like Cancer and Alzheimer. “Art eases discomfort and painful treatments. Hospitals found that patients who joined the art program healed faster than others. Showing the patients what they drew, enhanced their memory,” added Poteet.

“They do not see light in future that is why it is dark. Usually there are breakdowns in class,” he said that this was the reason behind having many pieces in black and white and without colors.

Madison Wetzell, a student in Vassar college said, “this exhibition reminded me of how to be a teenager: Dark…not much happens really in life while lot of emotions and hopes only. “

She answered that the painting of the girl studying in bed was the piece which she liked most. She smiled and explained that it represented her life.

 

The Mother is her child’s best teacher

18 Jan

This article was published By BornTrainer

The mother is the best teacher for her baby, no matter her education level; she is a customized teacher that just fits her baby’s needs. I always read that the key difference between a good teacher and the best teacher is how your students feel about you. If they really love you, they take you a role model, and will never forget you, moreover, they will always repeat your words, quote your words, and imitate your actions.  What about your baby, she by birth loves you and you love her ultimately.

When I knew that I was pregnant, I was so much concerned with:

  1. How to increase my baby’s intelligence
  2. How to raise a happy baby
  3. How to have a healthy baby (good references for this are the book series: “What do you expect”; i.e. What do you expect when you are expecting, What do you expect in the first year, and What do you expect in the toddler years)

Then when Areej (my daughter) was 5 months I watched a video of little girl of 1 year old, can read and makes some v. hard gym actions. Then I knew that there are programs on how to teach your baby many different skills to be nearly genius. Frankly, at first I never imagined that those programs would work with my daughter and those kids are really geniuses but I tried them & Thank God they worked, & told many of my friends about them & they worked with all of them, too.

The programs are:

  1. How to teach your baby to read.
  2. How to teach your baby to be physically superub.
  3. How to teach your baby to swim.

Actually those which I have tried with Areej but there are others like: How to teach your baby math, encyclopedic knowledge,…etc. I shall explain more some of the above points in more detail.

NOTE: 2 important notes:

  1. Do not to overload yourself or your baby or stress yourself, you just do what you can and stop when you or your baby are tired, these programs relies on making learning as plays and games that both of you enjoy, thus if you don’t then simply stop.
  2. Do not get upset if the results didn’t show instantly, you may feel that you are just exerting a lot of energy, money, and time in vain and your baby is not showing that she is learning anything but trust me suddenly she will surprise you and you will find that she learned everything you were trying to teach her.

How to increase baby intelligence

While she is in the womb, you can communicate with your baby through talking, yeah nice listening phase:

  1. I used to read for her Quran daily, and then when she was born she used to soothe and sometimes sleep while hearing me reading Quran.
  2. There are Mozart symphonies especially for the babies in the womb, it soothes them and enhances their taste of music later when they are born.
  3. Talk to her, may be she can not understand but she feels that you really do care about her and feels that this conversation is directed to her. On later months of pregnancy my baby used to respond to me by kicking, I was feeling that she understood that I talk to her and just got excitedJ, this was really interesting and joyful.
  4. Respond to your baby’s kicking by pressing gently back on the belly spot where she kicked, this is one way of conversation, she will feel this press. It is like you are telling her, “yes sweetie, I heard you and felt you, I am here for you any time”.
  5. Eat lentils, beans, peas,…etc., they increase the baby’s intelligence and prevent the magnolia case. But not too much to not hurt the colon.

After the baby is born and during her first year:

  1. Try to stimulate her by the strong colorful toys (i.e. red) to enhance her vision.
  2. Continue talking to her, this soothes her because it is the same voice she used to here while she was in the womb.
  3. I used to read Quran to her still.
  4. There are Mozart symphonies for first year.
  5. Put her a lot on her belly while she is awake on the floor surrounded with toys and rattles that make sounds and move but make her sleep on her back.
  6. there are physical plays that you can play with her, like sleeping on your back & putting her on her legs with holding her with your hands then raise your legs, she will find herself flying in the air, WOW they really will love it. you can find sorted by age on : www.babycenter.com and www.brillbaby.com

How to raise a happy baby

Oh, I was always concerned about this. As long as you respond to your baby’s needs and she feels that you are around and that you love her then she will be happy. Many times I found Areej crying and didn’t know the reason, then me and her father figured out this checklist to check her so fast and satisfy her:

  1. Check her diaper.
  2. Check her temperature, if she is hot or cold.
  3. I used to write down the time and the duration of lactation (it was required by her doctor), thus check if 2 hours has passed then probably she is hungry.

If the above list are all fulfilled, then probably she is crying because she is bored and missed you, give her a hug, kiss her , talk to her, hold her a little then put her back on her belly and sit with her to play together.

How to teach your baby to read

There are two schools in that: Dr. Doman’s and Dr. Titzer’s. Both agreed that the baby can read even before hi can speaks, thus both used to expose the children to words at very early age starting from 3 or 4 mnths old only, and both ways worked with hundreds of kids.

Dr. Doman relies on using flashcards, he claims that every child is naturally smart, and we the parents who knows how to stimulate this or the baby will just lose his natural intelligence. He also claims that every baby can memorize about 25 different words every 5 days.

Dr. Titzer actually used a more interesting way in teaching reading, he used multimedia. He made video presentation showing every word at first then a song or a baby or child making the word or expressing it –if it is a feeling-, like happy or sad or crying. But still he used the flashcards accompanying every CD having pictures with them.

I tried both ways, actually Dr. Titzer’s was more entertaining, furthermore, I felt that she understand really the meaning of the word not only memorizes its shape.

I’m trying to make her memorize Quran in this same way, I made her powerpoint presentation having the verses with moving arrows showing how the direction of reading the words, accompanied whether with my voice or el Shekh ElHosary Voice with children. It is free and available for download.

By the way Dr. Titzer has put a sample demo of his CD’s online that you can try it and take as a template for your presentations. In fact, I was lazy in making her other presentations; I made her 3 or 4 only having the words, then picture, then a video of her doing this word or with this object if available.  She used to be more interested in holding the flashcard herself then of course taste it or bend it or tear it than concentrating in what I was saying, thus computer powerpoint presentation worked much better with her.  Now I buy her books that have pictures and a word naming it & try to read it for her.

More interesting links that helped me a lot :

http://www.babycenter.com/0_how-to-raise-a-reader_11545.bc

www.brillbaby.com

Children bringing up in Islam

May be because I am currently living in a no Muslim country, I was concerned about that, I looked for many books discussing this important topic but they only concentrate on 3 principles:

  1. Read Quran a lot for the baby and the kid.
  2. Tell the messengers’ stories and Sunna stories before sleeping or for soothing and playtime
  3. Be a role model

I found none that gives a detailed practical one up till now but I found a nice series online not books that ris really interesting and has new practical information, you can find it on: http://www.yassernasr.com/sound.php?do=show_sub&IDS=10

Finally, I would like to ensure that the most important thing is to give your child care and love; this will enhance her confidence, ego and overall personality in the future. May Allah keep all our children from any harm, satin, and even from their self badness. For the record, I could not follow every single step mentioned in the above sites or books, I am doing my best and still searching for how to be a good mother and bring up a good children, God help us all in such tough task.

I would like to thank BronTrainer site to give a window to share such topics with you, I wish they were useful.

Please feel free to contact me on: efoda@ieee.org